As the year was coming to an end last night, my four kids and I had our New Year’s Eve planned. We loaded up in our van with our things gathered, and our excitement on, as we were ready to fellowship with our Memen and friends from her church before we headed off to meet my man at midnight for our New Year’s kiss that we have never missed.
Well, my so called “plans” were altered by unexpected car trouble, and what appeared to be a night of excitement suddenly became a night for opportunity in character growth. I was making my mind up to my way, but my husband proposed for me to go his way…which was I going to choose? My ‘feelings’ were screaming “MY WAY!” However, I surrendered my feelings as I chose… as I chose….(deep sigh) submission, OUCH!
As a devoted follower of Jesus Christ, I have chosen to TRY to allow my emotions to indicate my part during a moment of feeling offended, mistreated, or corrected. So basically moments when I ‘feel’ a need to defend myself. This, for me, has been a HUGE indication that what is actually set before me is not conflict, but my next opportunity to grow in my character…if I so choose. I don’t always choose yes, but I am learning every day to be more and more accountable of me, and less worried of others, by choosing yes more frequently than no. I am learning that in these moments, rather than defending myself with words, I must surrender myself to God in prayer. It is very hard, and I don’t always get it right, but last night I had victory because of the power made available to me through Jesus Christ.
Now, before I continue on I would like to point out that my husband is so worthy to be honored, respected, and loved. I thank God for my husband, and pray harder than ever before that He will continue to become the man God says He is, not who this world lies and says He should be. Equally, my prayer is that I continue to become the women God says I am, not who this world lies and says I should be. I do not want to be conformed to this world, but (rather) be transformed by the renewing of [my] mind. –Romans 12:2
I have found this choice to be one of the hardest choices to make. It is entirely up to us, as women and as children of God, to submit to the authorities set in place for us. One of my weaknesses is the need for control, which is fueled by my built in strong-willed personality. Last night, however, I got one step closer to putting that weakness to death as I chose to submit to my husband’s decision. I chose to yield myself by surrendering to what He felt was safest and best for our family rather than choosing defiance and fueling my need for control by doing what I wanted to do. 🙂
Ephesians 5:22-24, Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Now before we get all tense with this word lets looks at its definition. Submission, by definition means the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. It is an act of surrendering to a hold by one’s opponent; humility; meekness. The antonym is defined as defiance or resistance. So, in other words…if we want our husbands to lead, which many of us do as followers of Christ, then we must choose to become humble, meek, and yield to the authority of our husbands. If we do not choose to surrender to the authority, or headship, that we want them to have, then we choose the opposite, which is defiance or resistance.
Wives submit yourself to your own husband as you do to the Lord…what was revealed to me as I read this, is that if you have reached the place in your journey that you genuinely are choosing to submit to the Lord, then you should also be choosing to submit to your own husband.
My purpose is not to convince, debate, or persuade anyone of this choice. (Even though my prayer is that many women will become more willing to the idea, they must first choose to submit to the Lord.) Rather, my purpose is to encourage those who feel discouraged in this area, or are earnestly seeking a growth opportunity and feel stuck in their walk with Jesus. My purpose is to admit, repent, and surrender, to the Lord, my own struggle in this area so that others may be encouraged to do the same. My purpose is for us, as women in Christ, to build each other up so that we become more and more like the women we are called to be.
I LOVE the quote from the War Room when Mandy says, “Submission is learning to duck so God can hit your husband!” I just love that, because it is not our responsibility to control or change our husbands…it is our role to pray, love, encourage, build-up, and pray even harder for our husbands. It is our role, as their help mate, to help them and not break them. So, the next time you are presented with an opportunity to submit to your husband’s authority, then I encourage you to listen to the invitation and choose yes. Now, this does not mean put yourself in harms way or risk any type of safety. This is encouragement to surrender our need for control over our husbands so we can see our men become Mighty Men of God.
If you want a challenge, or a New Year’s resolution, that will transform your life from the core (heart), then choose to learn how to submit to the authorities set in place before us rather than choosing defiance and resistance. Learn how to lay down control, and pick up prayer. It will change our lives.
Let us rise up mighty WOMEN IN WAITING…RISE UP!!!!!! It is a REVIVAL, but revival starts with ME!!!!
In Jesus’ name and for His glory only,